19 signs of a toxic relationship.
If you think therapy is for the birds-you don't know Dr. Sherrie Campbell.
Dr. Sherrie Campbell drops truth bombs daily. She is the leading expert on how to cut ties with toxic people. Dr. Sherrie knows what she is talking about. This self-proclaimed "Chrissy from Three's Company doppelganger" may disarm you at first, with her perfectly coiffed hair and piercing blue eyes. The truth is, Dr. Sherrie is an intellect, who empowers her clients and readers with the tools to break free from relationships that are like poison to your soul.
Dr. Sherrie is an author, nationally recognized thought leader, and a regularly featured expert in TV and radio. Her accolades include her tenure as a blogger for the Huffington Post, weekly contributor for Entrepreneur, and Licensed Psychologist with over two decades of clinical training and experience. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology in 2003, where and specializes in psychotherapy with adults and teenagers. If that is not enough, she prides herself on being a connected mother to her teenage daughter. What is more powerful, is that Dr. Sherrie brings to the table a personal account of how she was subject to years of manipulative abuse.
Dr. Sherrie inspired me. Well let's be honest, Dr. Sherrie mesmerized me with her personal story of living with a narcissistic family member. Dr. Sherrie's vulnerable account illustrated her struggle to sever ties, even though she wears the title of leading expert on the subject matter.
Quite simply, Dr. Sherrie was the target of systematic familial bullying. Dr. Sherrie paints a raw portrait of how cutting ties with this "home devil" was a dance she engaged in for years. Her heart-wrenching illustration displays how difficult it is to walk away from a person who has undiluted pleasure in making you feel worthless.
What does a toxic relationship look like?
Invalidating or ignoring your feelings
Undermining your relationship with your spouse, kids, or other relatives
Creating drama or crises
Passive-aggressive behavior (such as the silent treatment, deliberate procrastination, or criticism disguised as a compliment)
Gaslighting (a powerful form of manipulation that makes you doubt your perception of what’s going on)
Refusing to compromise
Yelling, cursing, or calling your names
Belittling your values, beliefs, choices
Gossiping or speaking ill of you behind your back
Making unreasonable demands
Expecting you to help them, but they aren’t available to help you
Threatening suicide or self-harm in order to get their way
Ruining holidays and special occasions
Playing the victim
Not taking responsibility for their own behavior
In Dr. Sherrie's book, But It's Your Family she explains that healing comes with accepting that there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and live a full life. This best-selling book spells out clearly what it means to cut ties with toxic family abuse. She teaches you not to just survive but to thrive in the aftermath.
Dr. Sherrie espouses the power of silence. When we are in an unhealthy relationship disengagement is key. Disengagement and silence are our superpowers. A toxic person delights in heightened responses. Toxic people adore tears and anxiety. When we disengage and remain silent to their manipulations, there is no ammunition for more hate-filled attacks.
Dr. Sherrie currently has a client waiting list in her private practice and is not taking on new clients. However, lucky for us she is active and present in her Facebook Group of almost 130,000. She cares so deeply about her community, she personally interacts daily on Facebook.
(No team for this superstar).